I am 14 years old. I have a problem with myself. I can’t control my emotions, and I end up shouting at my friends, brothers and family. When I express my feelings, they point out to my mistakes and blame me. What is the solution for this?
It is not a good idea to suppress your feelings – positive or negative. When emotions get bottled up, it is natural to have an outburst, and many times it happens at an undesirable time, leading to misunderstanding and problems in relationships. Also, it is not healthy for the body to undergo stress, which can be avoided by letting it go in a healthy and an appropriate way. Suppressing emotions can leads to poor quality of life; managing them lead to a healthy way of life. It is very important to find out healthy ways to let out your unwanted feelings towards any situation or person. Most importantly, you need to accept that it is okay to feel bad or get angry. Tell yourself “I shall let it out and not keep it to myself”. Speak up for yourself in an assertive way, but never be rude or arrogant. When they point out to your mistakes, see if you are genuine. Withdrawal from the situation will not solve the problem. Distract yourself with music, sports or some activity to calm your mind. Meditation and relaxation exercises are helpful too. Journalising your thoughts will be a healthy way of letting go of your feelings. Art forms such as dance, painting, colouring can be cathartic.
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