When I trust my friends, they cheat or hurt me

I am in Class VIII. I have problem. When I trust my friends, they cheat or hurt me. In fact, not just friends, everyone I trust hurts me. What should I do?

Trust is important in any relationships, and develops over a period of time. It is a two-way process between two individuals. Trust can be developed and felt only when you feel secure and have the space to be yourself without the other person being judgemental. Here are a few suggestions to build trust in friendships.

  • Be honest: In order to gain the trust of a friend, it is necessary that he/ she feels that you are honest when you express something.
  • Be reliable: Listen to other people without judging their behavior. Demonstrate that your thoughts and actions are genuine.
  • Avoid rumours: Never spread rumours about the other person even for fun.
  • Offer help: Lend a helping hand to the person who needs it. Sharing in an important component of trust building – when you make the other person feel that you are available to share their good and bad, you become a trustworthy person. Remember not to get exploited, though.
  • Forgive: Be ready to forgive and apologise for your mistakes. Have an open discussion and make changes for a better relationship. All of us learn from mistakes.
  • Respect privacy: Be mindful to respect each other’s feelings and give them their space in everything.

 

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